Belt Auction - Baby food or new sound system?

Baby food or new sound system?

Back in mid December my ex girlfriend had our kid, Michelle, who they're now calling Mickey Mouse, which disgusts me. Anyway, I've set up a payment plan and I do get by once a week to see her, but her grandmother is bothering me about giving her $150 up front this week for a bulk order of Gerber and stuff she says she can get cheap from Sam's Club. At the same time, Michelle aint starving, she's doing fine and her mother Missy is on leave from work and getting paid. There was a deal on a Tweeter system and I put the money down for it through the Advance Auto Parts where I work. We special ordered the parts and I can't just back out right now. I'm buying baby food right now, but if I go in on some discount it clears me out. Either way, I look like a jerk. What should I do?

Public Comments

Well, as long as the baby isnt starving thats fine. Continue to buy your new sound system, but at the same time, go to the grocery store and buy about $20 or $30 worth of baby food and take it over to her grandmothers.
If you are absolutely sure the child has enough food to last her just give the money for the bulk food your next paycheck. NO harm no foul
If she isnt starving and you cant back out of the system go with the system, I mean why cant the mom pay for this time and you pay for the next? I mean she is the mother! sounds like you are doing your best but what is she doing?
The baby isn't starving. 150.00 is a lot to pay for baby food. Give them money for some food and buy yourself the Tweeter System. Your doing a lot more than some fathers are.
Isn't the baby too young for baby food? All she needs is breastmilk or formula. BM is free, and formula isn't, and as long as you are helping out financially, there should be no reason to deprive yourself of a little treat...but do keep supporting your baby financially.
A baby born December 2007 does not need to be on baby food. Period. She shouldn't be eating baby food until June at least, when she'll be 6 months. Buy the sound system now, and offer to help out on baby food when your daughter is old enough to eat it. I see no harm in it, as long as you are giving her money for other baby items. I would print out info for the mommy that shows that babies need to wait until they are AT LEAST 6 months old before starting solids.
Kids always come first, no matter what the situation is. I'd definitely make sure the money was going towards food of course, but I have a son and if he had 10 shirts all the same, and I had the choice of buying him the exact same shirt or getting a new pair of shoes you can guarantee I'm buying the shirt for my boy...
The fact that you are respecting the plan means you not a jerk. As long as you continue the plan, you can get the system. Let's say, however, that you stop the plan to get the system, then yes, you suck. But since you aren't, it's all good. The grandmother just wants the money.
The grandmother is lying.. a 2-month old baby does not eat Gerber.. babies don't start solid foods until 5-6 months.. so something isn't right here. Tell your ex (it's none of her grandmother's business) that you are going to pay as you previously agreed to, the $150 a week. To assure she is actually purchasing what you are giving her the money for, ask if you can purchase the food items yourself? She will just have to wait. It seems like the money was spent on something else. Best Wishes.
Buy some food on your own! Take it to your daughter and save your money! That sound system will be obsolete in two years but your daughter won't! It's time to think of her a little more and you, a little less! You can still hate the grandmother and your ex, but not your baby!
You should always make sure your baby is taken care of first before spending money on yourself. Once her needs are met... then you can spoil yourself a little.
no...either way you don'tlooklike a jerk...its totally reasonable o buy the food in bulk...its cheaper that way...has nothing to do with if the baby is starving or not.....the wise thing (which has nothing to do with making either side happy) is to explain to them that this time you just don't have the money up front...but next time you will be more than happy to do that., or even offer to go and buy the food yourself..., it may be hard to realize in such a short period of time..that unfortunately..no matter who said what.. in the end...YOU made the decision not to "wrap it", and well..smart food and baby item buying comes before tweeters. I just want to say..that I've read some of your other answers..like the one where you said "I really hate kids" and truthfully? if that is really how you feel, the wise thing to do is pay your money through the court system... then grandma can't bug you for the money upfront..in fact you won't have to deal with them at all, the court will send the money from you to them...and that would be best..if thats really how you feel..but given that your asking between tweeters or baby food kinda speaks for itself ..no child needs a daddy in their life who hates them, and it would be best for everyone...then just pray that years and years from now you don't grow up and realize how irresponsible you were and end up missing your little daughter...its a shame, every girl should have a chance to be a daddy's girl, its really you who will be missing out. and next time... "wrap it" as you like to say....or better yet? snip it! and everyone quit giving a time line on when baby's eat baby food..not all follow the same time line as your child..my niece had to be put on cereal at 3wks, my 1st born was on food by 3mths, and my brother and I were on food from 2wks...we have no allergies..we're not overweight, etc etc etc.....his question wasn't if the baby should be on food yet or not...as for the 150 being alot for food......ever been to sams club? its like a whole entire case of food...it would probably last almost 4 months., and what about diapers...wipes..and if she is formula fed (since mom works?) then formula...formula alone cost my husband and me 164 dollars a month...we use carnation good start..its 27 dollars a jar...and its none of your business if she is breast feeding or not..that as well was not part of the question...read some of the answers this guy has left okay....he said he really hates kids..why? because his had to go to the doctors.
Hey dude, Sorry to hear your ex bailed on ya taking your kid and is now calling her mickey mouse that is wrong lucky she isn't old enough to know what it means. How immature though. your are paying child support for your daughter yes??? If not then set up a payment plan so that your ex gets a set amount of money each of your paydays automatically this way it MIGHT stop her asking for large amounts of money. If your baby was born in mid December last year 2007 then your baby is only 2 months old yes??? TOO YOUNG FOR SOLIDS!!! Feeding your baby solids if she is only 2 months old is not a good idea it can cause all sorts of complications to your child. It could make her very sick, cause constipation, food allergies or worse. My advice is flag the baby food if she is that young she doesn't need it babies don't need baby food til they are 6 months old if they buy it now and wait til then chances are it might expire. Baby food is better fresh anyway and instead of buying tins/cans she should be making it her self when baby comes of age to eat solids. Get ya sound system man sounds like they are using your daughter to get what they want out of you. If you are providing for your daughter then you won't look like a jerk at all. Seems to me that you have a lot of love for your daughter.
I just have one question why are we worried about buying baby food for a baby who won't eat it for at least 3-4 months. I am pretty sure that can wait.
Continue with the payment plan that you have already set up; that was the deal, wasn't it? They can use the money that you send over to shop at Sam's Club or anywhere else they want. They have no right to demand a different payment plan to accommodate their desire to shop differently. Once you agree to something, you stick with it unless a court is ordering something else. You do have some rights too. They really don't have the right to do what they are doing to you.