Belt Auction

Need help getting over a lost auction...?

Lost an auction to a last minute buyer... Erk... The price of the item was so cheap too. Thought I was getting an absolute steal and, whilst I was away working, on the closing hour of the auction sneak-eye the last-minute-buyer pops through the door and steals the prize. Lost the auction. Came back from work. Checked my email. Expected a 'You have won!' but... Was faced with the worst of tides... 'YOU HAVE LOST' . . . 'You were outbid, 3 minutes before closing time...' Ofcourse those weren't the exact incarnations of the email but you get what I'm trying to say anyway... The item in question was an /extremely rare/ limited edition item, long out of production now. It was also in an !unopened condition!. Naturally, looking upon the item my eyes instantly watered and my hand intrinsicly clicked the 'place bid' button. I was to be so... so utterly dissapointed. Right now it feels as though there's a massive whole in my life... now that I've lost this item. I'm a collector of sorts. I won't provide details of the items that I collect but the loss of this item is of harrowing damage to my mental health. Infact, to try and soothe the pain, I went on tilt and started bidding on other, similar but not entirely the same, items. Unfortunately it didn't quite mend the hole in the wall... more... provided a bit of padding around it. I need help to get over this and am willing to try everything you suggest. Thanks, S ~ PS - To put more information into the pot, I was using a deputy service to bid on auctions in Japan. This should give you a better idea as to what items I like to collect and, the value and rarity of such items. For those of you who don't know what a deputy service is, it is effectively a 'proxy buyer'. A guy sits in Japan to bid on items in Japanese Auction Rooms. When he wins, you pay him and he sends it to you. It's all rather splendid as a matter of fact. Crue-k may well be right but my recent decision to immerse myself in material things and auctions came about to get my mind off a recent social episode that my recent activities have allowed me to overcome... Perhaps I should return to going out more... drinking away my sorrows and dancing the nights away. Hell, that's more expensive than auctions.

Public Comments

1. Losing an auction is detrimental to your mental health? You want to get out more.
2. Some things stick with us in a nagging manner for much longer than they should. Keep in mind it is a "thing" not a person in your life. I personally am still stewing over being "ripped off " by a plumber last month. They charged twice the estimate and have billed unsigned, unapproved bills against my Visa. I am P.O.ed. Some things are harder to let go than others. If auction is your thing. Find something new to concentrate on. Mentally, hanging on to the past will make you sick. Good Luck in letting go.
3. hey ive been gutted for weeks before, and that was just over an item of jewellery i lost out on - but the way i see it is if i'd wanted it that badly i'd have placed a higher bid than the one i originally stuck with. You have to set your limit and stick with it. If it goes over your max bid, then just know that it went for more than you were willing to pay anyway. Deal with it, accept it and move on. You'll be bidding on something equally as exciting to you before long!
4. Learn how to snipe auctions and you'll rarely ever lose out again. Sniping isn't unethical either, anything up for bid is fair game. All is fair in love, war, and online auctions!! LOL I'm a sniper. 1st thing you want to do is make sure you have the fastest internet connection speed possible. Ditch the guy who does your bidding for you...why put the outcome in somebody elses hands? Have multiple windows open on the item your bidding on (two, one to keep refreshing to watch the countdown clock and the other to place your bid), on one of those windows opened to the item click on 'place your bid' then fill in the highest amount you're willing to pay for that item...the more you want it, the higher you need to go.....have that window ready for last second clicking/bidding!! DONT place the bid until the countdown is about 5 seconds to closing....it'll take at least 2 seconds for your bid information to electronically transfer, so that leaves only 3 seconds left for somebody else to try and outbid you....not enough time for them if your highest bid is beyond what they tried putting in. It leaves them no time to be able to go back and change their bid..... The next thing you know, you've won...lol.. It takes practice to get real good at it. I'm VERY good at it and i've yet to lose an auction. Good luck!